We cannot always pinpoint discouragement right away because we mask it as something else. We ignore what is discouraging us and place it at the back of our minds. However, it will not go away that easy.
Then one day we finally acknowledge that we are not okay, but we hope that in time everything will be okay.
Often we get so worked up that even the tiniest mishaps become monstruous and then the stress builds and builds until we either lose it and go crazy or we want to give up.
Take it easy. Take a breath. And give yourself time to get it together.
Do not let discouragement get the best of you! You deserve to be whole and happy.
I am a go, go, go, busy, busy, busy person. Constant movement physically and mentally keeps me engaged and enthusiastic. I am always thinking of new things to do and work on. I give thought to the most impulsive ideas and I work at them until they come to fruition. This can be my main job or my new side hobby.
I know I am not alone in this, and it is a great way to work. It keeps me active and excited about life.
I made a blog impulsively, and the first 8 or so months were great! I was motivated, inspired, and managing it with school, work, and dance. I was on a roll and I was so excited with my new passion. Then, I hit a wall. I lost motivation to write and post, I stopped trying to find the time, and weeks and months starting to past and no new content.
I ignored it for a while and then I was devastated that I was not able to keep it up the way I wanted too. I put a good chunk of money into blogging and I started to envision big goals and milestones.
Who else has experienced this with blogging or another new hobby? It starts out great and you are ambitious and then you hit a plateau. It is always harder when you invest money in it because you cannot get that back.
Moral of the story, I was in a funk for a while. And once I am in a funk about one thing, it affects every aspect of my life.
I had to make to decision to stop allowing myself to be down and think about my next move.
4 Steps To Dealing With Discouragement
Get The Emotions Out
If you are one to hold in all of your emotions, let them out! You are most likely to get to the root of why you are feeling discouraged when you talk it out with another person or write it down. Share how you are feeling with a family member or close friend. Dialogue helps us derive conclusions and it always helps to get another person’s perspective.
When I was discouraged about my blog, I needed some tough love to tell me to either make a decision or keep wasting money. Being indecisive when you are investing your time and money is not going to help you feel better and it will not help your pockets. Also, you do not always need to take what others say verbatim. You can take what is helpful and respectfully decline what does not apply. But, be open to hearing suggestions and criticisms.
Acknowledge The Positives
I had to take the time to acknowledge how blogging has enhanced my life when I was on the stressful blogging hiatus. At first, I was starting to feel like I invested money in something that was not working out and I hate wasting my money. Even if something does not work out, you have inevitably learned from the experience. Blogging has opened new doors for me, allowed me to make new connections, opened other job prospects, and the list can go on (big or small). We have to acknowledge our wins no matter how big or small they are. After you recognize the wins, then you can see what did not work out.
Evaluate Your Next Move
Do not allow yourself to stay in a funk for more than 3 months! Even 3 months is a long time, but I will give you that much time.
Once you talk it out, acknowledged what worked and didn’t work, it is time to evaluate what happens next. Your time and money is precious, so the time you use sulking or being angry is time you could be using to be productive and happy. Maybe you will continue the hobby or job that made you discouraged and approach it a little differently this time or try something new and let go.
I made a few changes to my blog to lower expenses since I will be blogging less, but I was not ready to completely give it up. I gave myself a timeline of one more year before I discontinue it. So, give yourself a deadline. If you feel the same way in one year then maybe it is time to try something new.
Make a Decision
Make a conscious decision to be happy and be great. My final decision was to continue to blog (you are reading my first blog post- post funk!)
Stand by your decision with confidence, but remember change is good. If something is not working, then it is worth approaching it from a different angle. We are stubborn if we are reluctant to change and we expect different results.
So, The Mindful Rise took a few months hiatus but I am back in business! My one year anniversary was on my 21st birthday on August 28, and despite how I was feeling, my life and experiences after blogging are different than one year ago.
I am a strong believer than everything happens for a reason. Don’t let discouragement get the best of you because it is temporary, and your happiness should be forever.
Comment below with a time you felt discouraged and how you overcame it!