Did you have plans and goals set for yourself to be achieved by a certain age, but now you’re 25 and you are not where you thought you would be? It’s tough, maybe you did not land your dream job yet, you didn’t save or invest as much as you would have liked because you are still paying back student loans, or you have not found your soulmate yet and by now you thought you would have.
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Let’s face it, life doesn’t really always work on our timeline and sometimes that realization is a hard pill to swallow. I too in my teenage years had a vision set for my twenties some accomplished and some not so much, but I do believe I am on the right track.
Have you lost track of your goals? Do you feel lost or sidetracked from the vision you once had for your life.
In a way that can be okay because life goals can change. Some people had concrete visions for their lives when they we were 18, but college can certainly change that. You go in with one major in mind and graduate with a totally different one. It’s okay to change your mind, but then you need to change your vision. I think we should always have a tangible vision in mind and on paper so we can hold ourselves accountable.
How do you get out of that feeling of being stuck in your Twenties?
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Re-evaluate your life goals and write them down. They probably have changed since you were a teenager, but have you taken the time to write them down or create a vision board? It helps to see our goals and constantly be aware that we are working towards them. Sit down on a Sunday afternoon and really re-evaluate where you are in life and where you would like to be.
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Make a list of what things will help you get to your goals and what you need to be doing to get there. We can feel stuck because we get so overwhelmed with our daily lives that we don’t take a moment to re-access. You might be exhausted working day in and day out in jobs that you don’t care for to make ends meet, but in the midst of it all you lose sight on what you truly want to do. It’s okay to temporarily work menial jobs, but set out a time each day to actively work towards something else. It will help you stay in track.
2. Hold yourself accountable
It helps to write down and visual your goals so we never forget them. Also, it helps us hold ourselves accountable for our progress in achieving those goals. However, this does not mean to be beat yourself up about anything. If you are actively working on yourself and where you would like to be, then you are on the right track, but if you are not then make a change. That’s all, don’t say negative things to yourself like you are a failure or you need to settle because you’ll never achieve your dreams. Because thoughts like that will NOT help you. Positive energy truly affects our external world and negativity will only bring you stress.
Ultimately, this means do not settle. Getting complacent or settling is the worst thing you can do because you’ll never reach the place you want to.
3. Look for a new passion
Maybe you feel stuck because you just don’t love what you do anymore. You were once passionate about it, but now it doesn’t bring you happiness like it once did. We grow and change as we get older so this is possible, but that doesn’t mean we should continue doing what does not make us happy. We are still so young and full of possibilities in our twenties, so find something else! Some other things you can do to find inspiration are:
A. Read- Read print, physical books, and read online. There is so much information out there and it only does us a disservice to not indulge in it. Some of my favorite books and books I would like to read for inspiration are:
Heard of 10,000 hour rule? I still remember Gladwell’s tips for success till this day and I read this book in high school. This book supports my point that you have to put in the work and time to become successful.
I read this book this past summer, and I learned so much. I knew I wanted to invest and it was important, but this book propelled me to really start my investment journey. I was not born into wealth, but that does not mean I cannot attain it.
This book is a Bestseller, and I can see why. D’Eramo shares tools to increase energy, productivity, and your health. If you are feeling overwhelmingly stressed and it is taking an effect on your body, and this book is a must read.
This book is on my to do list. Besides the fact that I love Shonda Rhimes because I think she is amazing and unbelievably talented, she wrote this fantastic memoir on her year of saying yes to everything that scared her. Sometimes we get stuck because of fear. We do not say yes to all the possibilities and opportunities that we could be, so I think this book will be of great help to anyone who is in that boat.
B. Volunteer- A huge part of the beauty of humanity is giving. Most of us are so privileged here in the US because we have a plethora of resources here at our exposal that sometimes we take for granted ( I can only speak for the residents of the US). It’s so important to volunteer, and you might find something that you are deeply passionate about.
C. Travel- I have actually combined travel and volunteering and it was an amazing eye opening experience. It’s important to get out of this bubble we live in, and go to different countries, see different cultures and hear different lanaguges. We can get stuck because we get caught in the monotony of our environment. Change it up! I’ve only traveled in 2 week brackets, but you can plan to go for a semester or even a year. Seeing life from a different perspective might give you a refreshed vision for your own life.
D. Blog- I would not have imagined a year ago that my new passion would be blogging. With that I have found that you have to be open to change and revisioning our lives. I didn’t see blogging in my 5 year plan before, but now I do and it’s exciting.
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Besides that, blogging is a great way to meet new people from all over the world. It’s a chance to create an online presence for yourself and express your ideas. Whether you want to make a business out of it or do it for fun it’s a way of expression, which is always important. You can read other blogs and discover things that inspire you and unveil new passions.
4. Work Harder
Sucesss does not get handed to you in a pretty package. That package is usually tainted with hard work, dedication, commitment, and focus. You have to hustle to make it happen, and trust me the path might be strenuous but the end result will feel magnificent. Do you feel yourself getting lazy or unmotivated? Re-evaluate and get out of that. Mediocracy in my book will not make you successful or set you apart from the rest. You have to be hungry. If you think you are working hard towards your goals then you are on the right track, but if you are in that lazy group then it’s time to hustle.
Here are just a few points to help you get out of that feeling of being stuck or lost in your twenties. We all go through periods of uncertainty, and that’s okay. It’s okay to not always know what you want to do, but it’s not okay to relish in that space. We often feel stuck because we are not happy.
My solution: Allow yourself to re-evaluate and redefine your passions in life, so you can indulge in a career that brings you happiness.
Any comments or extra advice you would like to give? Please comment, I love to hear new ideas.
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