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Hey girl bosses let’s make 2017 one for the books! I am SO ready to make it happen in 2017. Looking back at where I was last year this time and where I am now makes me so happy.
I remember I had two specific, narrow goals for 2016 and I did not achieve either of them. Let’s just say those downfalls were not my brightest moments, and I thought that they were a reflection of my entire year at the time. My goals were not diversified nor did I leave room for other opportunities; I thought that if I did not get those things I was basically a failure.
I needed to not get those things in 2016 to teach me that I had so much more in store for me. One, I cannot determine my success from the rejection of a person or institution and two, in time what is meant for me will be.
This to say my fellow girl bosses don’t let
minor things trip you up this year. I want to say minor, but I know in the moment those rejections or failures do not feel minor and sometimes they truly are not. So, even if it is a major drawback do not let it hold you back from being a girl boss.
Needless to say, I have already used girl boss at least 3 times so far and I have used it in my pass posts. I will be using girl boss more in my future posts because it describes my female readers. I like the term girl boss because it captures how we act and how we think.
I snagged the term immediately after reading another article because it had a ring to it. I honestly started using it before I knew exactly what it meant because I gave it my own definition.
When I think of a girl boss I think of a woman who is in charge and a fierce leader. She can be dressed to impress and leading a meeting because she is the CEO of a major company or she can be rocking her favorite pjs in bed as she conquers the world from her laptop. Either way she is a boss, and she knows she is a boss.
Most importantly she knows her worth and accepts nothing less than she deserves. This can mean financially, in her career, in her relationships, and in her own self development. Now even though she is a queen it does not mean she is perfect. She is simply confident and self- motivated, so she does not allow her imperfections to hold her back.
So, why should you see yourself as a girl boss in 2017?
Hopefully you were reading my definition and thinking yes I want to be that woman! Or, I already am that woman but I don’t call myself a girl boss. Truthfully, as long as you think this way the term you use to describe yourself is not as important. I just want people to recognize who and what I am talking about when I say girl boss in the future.
I want you ladies to see yourself as fearless, exceptional leaders who ooze confidence in every aspect of your life. I was listening to one of Myleik’s podcasts, and she said “How you do one thing is how you do everything.” *Snaps and claps please* How you are in one aspect of your life should be no different than the other. So, you cannot be a boss at work and know your worth with your career, but then fail to dish out the same in your relationships. We want to live a balanced life, and than means giving each aspect of our lives the same commitment.
I always believe it starts with your mindset (cough cough the Mindful rise). Haha, I love when I throw it how my blog name makes sense. Anyway, I agree action is an important step because of course you cannot actualize anything if you do not make the moves to do it. But, I believe how we think is just as important. I know I am more motivated to do something and to continue to work at that level when I understand why I am doing it.
Think about it, you are much more motivated to do something when you don’t see it as a chore.
Take a few moments right now and everyday to write out why you are a girl boss. Why you deserve to be successful and how you will get there.
Yes, you deserve to be amazing. But when I say you deserve something I mean that you are worthy of it, not entitled to it. So let’s not mistake the two. We are not entitled to anything and feeling entitled makes us self- involved and snobby. I am not entitled to get into my dream company, but I know I am worthy of being there. There is a difference to know you are worthy of great things and feeling entitled that you should have these things.
That might have been a little off track, but knowing that difference will save you from being embarrassed, hurt, or feeling like a victim your entire life. You don’t what your boss to scold you for having that attitude because most people will not welcome it. In addition, your life is going to be so much harder if you blame everyone else when you do not get something. So, yes I want you ladies to not except anything less than you deserve but you do not want to be arrogant.
Girl bosses don’t turn people away from them because they are self- involved, they actually generate amazing relationships because their energy is so welcoming.
Where To Be a Girl Boss
You know I can go on and on about why having smart financial habits are essential, so of course I think its crucial for girl bosses! We want to be in charge of our money and not allow our money to be in charge of us. We work too hard to better ourselves everyday to be a slave to our finances and debt. If we are handling our finances passively, not paying back our loans and debt, missing credit card payments, or living from paycheck to paycheck then you are not in charge, your money is. Make that change this year.
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Like I said at the beginning of this post, it does not matter if you are a CEO or stay-at-home blogger, you are a girl boss. You are the leader of your business or maybe you aspire to be an entrepreneur one day. Remember, I urge you not to settle for anything you are not passionate about. Work can be such a chore if we hate what we do.
I remember I used to swim competitively, and I began to hate it. It was not fun for me anymore and I would be miserable going to practice everyday. I didn’t hate swimming as a whole, I just did not want to do it at that level anymore. I quickly realized I really cannot do well at something I am not passionate about. I was not willing to put in the work anymore because I hated it so much. If you are in a situation like this at work, you know you are hindering your success by staying there.
I understand it is not always easy to pick up and leave because of financial responsibilities, but make sure you are aiding your heart in some way on the side. Whether it is a hobby or a side hustle that makes you happy. Do something else because you are not staying true to yourself if you don’t.
Remember when Myleik said to treat each aspect of our lives with the same commitment? Yeah, that comes in handy right now. We can be on cloud 9 with our careers and finances, but if our relationships are toxic then we will still find ourselves unhappy.
So, know your worth when it comes to relationships with friends, family, and with boyfriends or girlfriends. You definitely can’t be a boss at work and then lower your standard with your relationships. No, keep the balance and know your worth across the board.
Sometimes you will find yourself as the single friend for an extended period of time. Nothing is wrong with you and you are not missing out on life. Allow this to be the time to focus on yourself and your career endeavors more keenly. Disclaimer: Ah, okay, I myself have not been in a serious relationship, so I have been single for a while, and I have gone through periods when I thought something was wrong with me…Truth is nothing is wrong with me. And right now I am better than ever because I have taken this space to re-focus my energy on building myself and my business.
I am happy to write more on this topic if people are interested. Just comment below or send me an email.
Now I’m a go ahead and say this is the most important to me. We need to take care of ourselves first before we can take care of our relationships, career, and finances. We cannot give endlessly to everything else and then leave less than one percent for ourselves. How do you expect to sustain that?
A girl boss takes care of herself and she makes it a priority. When you take care of yourself you are able to tap into the two qualities that help you become a girl boss: confidence and self-motivation.
The two work hand in hand. When you are confident you value what you bring to the table and you know what you are good at. If you are confident that you are an amazing cook, and then it is easier to be self-motivated to take your career to the next level. You will be motivated to write that cook book or create a food blog so you can share your recipes with others.
When you can acknowledge your value, you won’t settle for anything less than you deserve. I want us ladies to actively go after our goals this year because we know we are worthy of them. Make 2017 one for the books!
Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful for happy.” -Vincent Peale
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